You’re grinding through your days, right? Work, learning, exercise, family time, hobbies… and somehow you’re supposed to fit it all in while getting eight hours of sleep. Sounds impossible because, well, with your current approach, it probably is. The secret isn’t working harder or magically finding more willpower. It’s about thinking in systems instead of constantly relying on motivation to carry you through.
What Systems Actually Mean
Most of us operate on intentions and tasks. “I need to exercise today.” “I should finish that online course.” “I really need to get more sleep.” When life gets busy, these good intentions crash and burn. Maybe you level up and turn intentions into plans: “I’ll read for an hour every evening” or “I’ll exercise right after work.” Better, sure. But what happens when you’re exhausted? When something unexpected pops up? By day three, you haven’t even started, and now you’re drowning in guilt.
Systems thinking flips this completely. Instead of depending on willpower (which will run out), you build processes that automatically move you toward your goals. You’re not white-knuckling your way through life anymore.
The Three Principles That Change Everything
Think Holistically
Stop pretending your plans exist in a perfect vacuum. Expect them to fail. Seriously. Assume you’ll be tired, lazy, and that life will throw curveballs. Now ask yourself: what can I actually do about that?
Look at every factor that could derail your intention. What have you tried before? Why didn’t it work? You need this list of barriers because your system has to account for all of them. You’re not being negative, you’re being realistic. And realism is what makes systems stick.
Build for Repeatability
Your system should work on your worst day, not just when everything aligns perfectly. Does your plan require a burst of motivation to execute? That’s a red flag. You want minimal friction, maximum ease.
Think about an accountant studying for brutal exams while working full time. His initial plan: study after work every day. Sounds good, right? Except traffic exhausted him, family needed attention, dinner happened, and suddenly he was too tired to think. The “just try harder” advice? It might work for a week or two, but it’s miserable and unsustainable.
So we looked for lower effort solutions. Stay at work longer, beat the traffic, study there, then head home. Could his family push dinner back an hour? Maybe. Could he study before work instead? Well, that meant sleeping earlier, which meant changing his nighttime routine. You keep bouncing between finding easier solutions and identifying why they might not work until you find the combination that actually locks in success.
This is just problem solving. Your first solution won’t be perfect. That doesn’t mean there’s no solution. There’s some combination that will work, and your job is to keep looking until you find it.
Peel the Band-Aids
Your first system will be full of temporary fixes. Feeling tired? Take a nap. Can’t focus? Use a timer. These band-aids help right now, but they’re masking deeper issues. You’re tired because you’re not sleeping enough. You can’t focus because your attention span needs training.
Band-aids bloat your system and create fragile conditions. No time for a nap? Your plan collapses. While they serve you short term, treat them as temporary while you fix the root problems. And yes, fixing those problems becomes another goal that you plug into your system. You might use that timer today while simultaneously working on improving your focus long term.
The Uncomfortable Part (That’s Actually Good)
Most solutions from this process feel uncomfortable because they’re different from what you’re doing now. That’s the point. You can’t get different results by doing the same things. And honestly? The discomfort of change is usually less painful than the discomfort of staying stuck. Living with constant stress, anxiety, and disappointment because you never make progress on what matters to you? That’s way worse than adjusting your nighttime routine.
As you work through this, your plans become incredibly specific and dynamic. Not vague statements, but actual contingencies: “If I’m tired, I do this. If not, I do that.” You learn how you respond to challenges, which makes it easier to adapt when life throws you off course.
Your Move
You’re already putting in the effort. You’re already uncomfortable. Systems thinking just redirects that energy toward something that actually works. Instead of relying on endless willpower, you build processes that carry you forward automatically.
Stop trying to muscle through with motivation alone. Start building systems that work even when you don’t feel like it. That’s how you finally get control of your time and actually live the life you’re working so hard to build.
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