You’ve been doing it wrong this whole time. I know that sounds harsh, but hear me out. While everyone else is grinding harder, working longer hours, and burning themselves out, there’s one ridiculously simple skill that trumps all of that hustle culture nonsense.
It’s the art of asking.
I’m serious. If you master just one thing in life, make it this. Because here’s what nobody tells you: most people are incredibly hardworking but terrible at asking for what they want. They’ll put in 60-hour weeks but never once write down their actual goals or ask for that promotion.
Sound familiar? You might be a fantastic worker but a lousy asker.
The Magic Button That Actually Works
Here’s the wild part about asking. It literally starts some kind of internal process that I can’t even explain. It’s like pushing a button and suddenly all this mental machinery kicks into gear. I don’t need to understand how my car engine works to drive to the store, right? Same thing here.
You ask for something, and your brain automatically starts looking for ways to make it happen. Your awareness shifts. Opportunities you never noticed before suddenly appear everywhere. Call it psychology, call it magic, I honestly don’t care what you call it. It just works.
The formula has been around forever: “Ask and you shall receive.” But most of us treat it like some feel-good poster on a therapist’s wall instead of an actual operating system for life.
Why You’re Not Getting What You Want
Here’s the kicker that blew my mind when I first heard it. Receiving is automatic. If that’s true (and I believe it is), then receiving isn’t your problem. Your problem is that you’re not asking in the first place.
Think about last year. How many times did you work your butt off but never clearly defined what you actually wanted? How many goals existed only in your head instead of written down somewhere you could see them?
You might be the hardest worker in your office, but if you’ve never asked for what you want, you’re fighting an uphill battle with one hand tied behind your back.
I know a guy who worked at the same company for five years, constantly complaining about his salary. Never once asked for a raise. When he finally did? Got it within two weeks. Five years of frustration solved by a single conversation.
You’re Going to the Ocean with a Teaspoon
Success isn’t rare. There’s not some cosmic shortage where only a few people get to win. Think of it like an ocean. Massive, abundant, more than enough for everyone.
But here’s what’s hilarious and tragic at the same time. Most people show up to this ocean of opportunity with a tiny teaspoon. They make these small, apologetic requests and wonder why their results are so disappointing.
You know what you need? Trade that teaspoon for a bucket. At minimum. Better yet, get yourself a fire hose.
Stop asking for small things when big things are just as available.
The Two Ways to Ask (That Actually Get Results)
First, ask with intelligence. This doesn’t mean using fancy words or corporate speak. It means being specific. Crystal clear. Exactly how much money do you want? By when? What does your ideal relationship look like? What specific skills do you want to learn?
Vague goals are worthless. “I want to be successful” gets you nowhere. “I want to earn $75,000 by December 31st” gives your brain something concrete to work with.
Goals become magnets when you describe them clearly. The better your description, the stronger the pull.
Second, ask with faith. This is the part that makes most adults cringe, but stay with me. You need to believe like a child believes. Kids don’t think about all the reasons something won’t work. They just assume it will.
Make plans like an adult, but believe in them like a child.
Most grown-ups have had their dreams beaten out of them by years of “being realistic.” But realistic thinking is just another word for settling for less than you want.
Your 90-Day Challenge
Here’s what I want you to do. Try this approach for exactly 90 days. Write down what you want with embarrassing specificity. Ask for it boldly. Believe it’s possible despite all the reasonable adult voices in your head telling you otherwise.
What’s the worst that happens? You go back to your old way of doing things? At least you’ll know for sure instead of spending the rest of your life wondering “what if.”
But I’m betting something different happens. I’m betting you discover that most of what you want has been waiting for you to simply ask for it.
The world admires doers, sure. But it rewards askers.
So what are you going to ask for today?
Key Summary Points:
- Most people work hard but fail to clearly ask for what they want
- Asking activates a mental process that automatically helps you find opportunities
- Be specific with your requests – vague goals get vague results
- Ask with childlike faith while making adult-level plans for 90 days
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